so well explained Luise!! this piece made me wonder whether shame can also function as a protective mechanism against the discomfort of change. if we internalize a mistake as part of who we are, I wonder if that sometimes protects us from the vulnerability of confronting it, repairing it, and growing from it. because then we don't have to grapple with the tough questions like "why did i act that way, where is that coming from", etc. in some ways, it's almost easier to believe "this is who i am, i am a bad person" than it is to sit with the discomfort of change. wondering what you think of that ❤️
absolutely, what you're describing makes perfect sense! your comment also made me think of fixed vs. growth mindset. shame keeps us in the fixed mindset and can convince us we're the victim and that we cannot change. we're almost paralyzed. but guilt, although not being a pleasant emotion, helps us move forward and become better. thank you for sharing your thoughts and for this important addition Naomi! 🥰
I think shame also makes people become more self-centered, since you make everything about you, so you will be focusing on yourself, and as mentioned in the essay, shame doesn't allow you to change, but it stops you. So eventually it becomes a loop that it's hard for you to come out.
so well explained Luise!! this piece made me wonder whether shame can also function as a protective mechanism against the discomfort of change. if we internalize a mistake as part of who we are, I wonder if that sometimes protects us from the vulnerability of confronting it, repairing it, and growing from it. because then we don't have to grapple with the tough questions like "why did i act that way, where is that coming from", etc. in some ways, it's almost easier to believe "this is who i am, i am a bad person" than it is to sit with the discomfort of change. wondering what you think of that ❤️
absolutely, what you're describing makes perfect sense! your comment also made me think of fixed vs. growth mindset. shame keeps us in the fixed mindset and can convince us we're the victim and that we cannot change. we're almost paralyzed. but guilt, although not being a pleasant emotion, helps us move forward and become better. thank you for sharing your thoughts and for this important addition Naomi! 🥰
I think shame also makes people become more self-centered, since you make everything about you, so you will be focusing on yourself, and as mentioned in the essay, shame doesn't allow you to change, but it stops you. So eventually it becomes a loop that it's hard for you to come out.
absolutely! it's a vicious cycle 🫠
Wow, I'm so glad I stumbled upon this article. It found me at the perfect time.
I'm so glad it found you when you needed it!! Thank you for your comment 🫶
thankyouu sm for this, Luise <3 :')
thank youuuu lovely!
This is such a helpful article :) The framework mentioned here really helps me avoid spiraling into a self-sabotage cycle
oh I'm so glad to hear that 🥹 thank you for your comment!!
Needed this !!!
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